Working in Pathology you see it all, everyday we are privileged to be have access to the most private details of our citizen's lives. Sexually transmitted diseases, rape, alcoholism, depression, overdoses, births and deaths.
Fertility is still one of the more emotive things we deal with and it may surprize some of you to know that semen samples arrive everyday with women's names on them. The most common clinical detail is : Man post vasectomy wife pregnant?????? (Sometimes the vasectomy has failed but not always).
The owner of the sperm isn't always aware that his little friends are being analysed. One time a lady rang us she wanted semen analysis on a sample that she had collected from her back. Technically, we don't need the man's permission if he leaves it on her she can do whatever she wants with it.
A couple in the midlands divorced because the husband who knew he had a low sperm count never told his wife, and allowed her to undergo fertility treatment. Too embarassing for him to admit he had a problem, it was easier for his wife to undergo horrible hormonal injections.
Me personally I'm the opposite, I have had unprotected sex four times in my life and have had three pregnancies! If my husband (the sperminator) hangs his pants in my room I get pregnant.
When it comes to sex women will never really be as liberated as men, simply because we carry the can (the baby). Men can walk away, they're rarely labelled as sluts, and are applauded for their exploits. Even the most liberated woman is much more likely to feel used after meaningless sex than a man.
When it comes to sex will we ever have equality?
I'd never trust a man to take a contraceptive pill would you?
Monday, December 29, 2008
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"If my husband (the sperminator) hangs his pants in my room I get pregnant."
Ha! That's a good one, Cleo.
"Men can walk away, they're rarely labelled as sluts, and are applauded for their exploits. Even the most liberated woman is much more likely to feel used after meaningless sex than a man."
There will always be a double standard. Just look at our anatomy. We're innies and men are outties. They "deposit" stuff in us, making the entire transaction more invasive for a woman, hence why we are labeled whores and men happy 'pokin' bachelors.
This lady was on Oprah long ago talking to teens about sex and about very promiscuous girls (and girls who perform oral sex just to remain virgins, but don't even get the favor returned from the guys). She said something about being a "trash can" for the guy to dump his ego and macho bullshit into. I can't remember her exact words, but I think our bodies are also a big part of this double standard mess.
And yes, we are emotionally involved moreso than men, which is just how women are built mentally. Hell, we're the maternal ones and the ones who keep the world populated for crying out loud! Ugh! It's complicated. We'll never be equals in the sex department. But we are still wonderful creatures nontheless.
Prostitution and pornography are making the situation worse by the day I think (at least in the US).
Is there still guilt related to religion in Ireland?
Trash cans for men's egos.
Never thought about it like that before. I guess young girls need to realise that having sex has consequences not just biological but if it is with the wrong person it can change their self perception.
Elizabeth
Guilt sex and religion
I remember when I was a teenager I would feel guilty for allowing men to feel me up. Thats dead, now teenagers have sex with boys they don't even like just to fit in. I'm not sure what's worse at least when I had sex I was ready for it.
As a woman, you're fucked...contraceptives - your job.
Preganancy - your job.
Breast feading - your job.
On the other hand...I think it's a privilege to be able to GIVE LIFE...we're Gods somehow - and that's probably the main reason why certain men are afraid of us.
How does the saying go: "The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world."
I seriously believe that the opression of women in the past (and in the present day) - witch hunts etc. etc. has to do with the fact that we're the life-givers.
I look forward to the day when I can have sex with a man but without worrying about pregnancy. Simply for pleasure...maybe that's where the divide falls for heteros when some of the power falls away.
And yet I wonder how gender expectations play out for homosexual couples when the fear of pregnancy isn't tied to sex.
And yet I wonder how gender expectations play out for homosexual couples when the fear of pregnancy isn't tied to sex.
Now thats an interesting question, I'll ask my sister in law she's a lesbian.
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